Most Couples Can’t Talk About Finances Without a Serious Ick Factor.
That’s because spouses have totally different histories with and dominating beliefs about money. Here’s my Big Fight Story, where I confess the nastiest brawl I ever had with my husband (it’s about dish soap).
I Help Couples Get on the Same Page With Money
I’m the first to admit that I’m not a licensed counselor; I’m a financial planner. Conversely, many counselors admit that finances aren’t their specialty.
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I’m extremely skilled at leading productive, healthy conversations between spouses about their money.
I bring a high acumen of emotional intelligence and financial guidance to help couples get on the same page with money.
Oftentimes we do financial therapy in collaboration with
licensed counselors and psychologists. But more often than not, it’s just people raising their hand asking for help. It’s hard work, and it’s my best work!
Our Beliefs About Money Were Imprinted on Us During Childhood.
Whether you like it or not, you and your spouse are either rebelling against or embracing what was modeled to you (financially) during your upbringing, including how your family bought groceries, faced debt, played, and paid for college.
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There’s a reason you believe money should be used a certain way, as much as your spouse believes money shouldn’t be used another way. Neither are right. Neither are wrong.
I Have Studied Behavioral Finance Voraciously.
I was 28 years old helping folks who’d been married longer than I had been alive when I started my career as a financial planner. I noticed that couples tend to miss each other in conversation.
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One spouse was always disinterested and shut down, and the other leading the way with duty and zeal.
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A decade later, it's clear to me that spouses sincerely love one another but oftentimes they can’t find a path to align their family finances with their individual beliefs and values.
When Partners don't align on Money, trouble follows.
This unhealthy behavior with money creates an unsafe place for the spouses and their children. It makes one person the villain and the other the victor. That’s a lose-lose. No wonder money is the #1 reason couples fight and the #1 reason they divorce.
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Discover peace as a family when you find a rhythm that embraces both spouses’ will, opinion and values with money! (P S: you won’t learn this in Dave Ramsey’s class at church.)
